Kinky Boots

Since returning to the world of BDSM at the beginning of the year, I’ve been developing a kink-oriented wardrobe. (Maybe it’s time I admit I have a shopping fetish.) With Halloween coming up, there are a few costume parties that my hubby, boyfriend, and I have decided to attend. Of course, I “need” something costume-ish, right? Can’t go to kinky costume parties looking vanilla…

Of course, the more I thought about piecing together an outfit, the more I entertained dramatic kink-wear for home and future, non-themed play parties. I mean, if you’re going to engage in kinky play, why not add a little extra theatre with a great outfit: platformed thigh-high boots, perhaps, and a latex minidress, oooh, and a pair of Maleficent-inspired horns. And a feathered posture collar. (Seriously…why not?)

Now, the boots have to be the right height on the leg to avoid interfering with hemlines. So, naturally, to suit various lengths of dress, one “needs” multiple pairs of boots…ones that come up just above the knee, and others that come up almost to the tops of the thighs. I now own six pairs of thigh-high boots (three pairs in black – my most recent acquisition shown above for your drooling….err, I mean viewing pleasure) for street and kink usage.

You see where this wardrobing logic is taking me, right? (If not to the poor house!)

One thing that fuels my indulgence is the way my purchases make me feel. When I look in the dressing room mirror and see how flattering something fits, I feel POWERFUL. I feel sexy. I don’t just feel good in the clothes… I feel good in my skin. And those things show: when you can appreciate yourself this way, you glow. You exude confidence.

It’s true, what we wear impacts our self-image, and it affects how others view us, too. If you’ve ever watched an episode of ‘What Not to Wear,’ you’ve seen how choosing what fits well and looks good can be an amazing, if not transformative, experience. In the world of employment alone, appearing more sophisticated and put-together can help open doors; it grabs the right kind of attention and sets the stage for you to show off your best self.

I’m not placing undue importance on either clothes or self-image. Rather, I’m acknowledging the reality that, right or wrong, we are judged on appearance, and unfavorable judgment can impact parts of our lives (securing a job interview, or competing for a promotion) we’d just as soon have more control over…so, why not stack the deck in our favor?

If how you dress helped you feel stronger and more confident, what risks might you be more willing to take; how much more might you step outside your comfort zone because you feel more capable, or because you can command people’s attention?

If dressing to increase self-confidence is something you’ve not considered before, or if you’re not sure where to start, I recommend finding a good department store that offers a Personal Shopper service. A Personal Shopper can take the guesswork out of finding the best styles for your proportions, and their familiarity with the store’s inventory can save you literally hours compared to shopping on your own. They also know about upcoming sales and specials so they can help you save money, too. And, the more you work with a PS, the more familiar they become with your tastes so they can make better and better suggestions over time.

Isn’t it time you had some kinky boots of your own?

 

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